Internet hookups are full of dangers, regardless of people’s gender, age, social status. Be careful and choose only best gay platforms, use common sense, do not fall for obvious scammers.
Gender-fluid photos or pictures of non-related objects won’t tell much about a person. At least choose the users who aren’t posting their muscled torso only: mostly escort boys do so, not serious ones.
Do not meet up with gay men who ask weird questions trying to invade your personal space and spy on you. Always cut such a conversation and move on, without letting know your bank data or address.
Dating experts recommend to hook up safely on official LGBTQ events since they’re well-organized and mostly attract genuine personalities who do not hide or trick the others.
Sometimes our true desires exceed other people’s imagination or stereotypes. How to be understood, not rejected, and receive what you want in a bed without being severely judged?
- Hookup online on high-rated gay apps only. Meet up with LGBTQ singles who indicate the same sexual preference in their profile or message, then you will be more welcomed.
- Discuss in advance. Untold wishes are always the root of problem. Do not be afraid to discuss your keen desires at the very beginning, so you’ll know the reaction in advance.
- Accept the student role. The best way to get satisfied as a gay man, is to learn from more experienced personalities. Let them teach you and take the second role, it’s better for you.
Casual gay sex with hetero men is both safer and riskier. Safer, because they’re unlikely HIV positive or into gay prostitution. And riskier, because they may take you wrongly for what you say or do.
It always helps when a man already experimented with same-age partners, for example, at his childhood or teen years. It makes him dream about the real thing, and he’ll be happy to meet up.
Gay men suffer the most from aggressive singles who fight against their homosexuality. Chat with a person a bit before you get laid, and make sure he isn’t short-tempered or abusive.
Remember an inexperienced gay man isn’t as confident about things as you are. Guide him step by step, make the foreplay longer, be more gentle hookuping him than you are with others.
Surprisingly, health experts find topping less risky than bottoming, in case of unprotected sex. Even if the partners wear condoms, but one of them is infected, a man on the top risks less.
How to protect yourself if you do bottoming only? Insist on condoms and keep some extra ones in your pocket or under the pillow, hook up men you know well, request their HIV status certificate.